Rebecca D'arcy Interfaith Minister and Spiritual Counsellor

Sacred Ceremony

Ceremony is a creative and powerful way to celebrate important moments in our lives and support us during times of change or loss. With ritualised acts, we can mark transitions, let go of what needs to be released and invoke powerful new beginnings. In an increasingly diverse world, there is a need for alternatives to traditional ways of marking joyous events or moving through periods of difficulty. Personalised ceremonies can assist with inner transformation and healing by shifting deeply ingrained habits and beliefs.

Ceremony can be soulful, energising and powerful whilst paradoxically holding the qualities of serenity and grace.The symbolism within a well crafted ceremony speaks directly to our psyche, solidifying an intention or stating that a transition has occurred. We can use ceremonies to assist with issues such as cutting ties with the past, healing grief, moving on from a severed relationship or feeling stuck. Stepping out into change and embarking upon new horizons is another area where ceremony can hep, such as starting a new job, moving home, taking on new responsibilities or following a dream.

I have many years experience in creating and conducting ceremony. I am an ordained Interfaith Minister, and have written and officiated at a range of ceremonies for many years.

Exploring the issue within a one to one session is usually the first step to creating personalised ceremony. Get In Touch to discuss your needs.

Ceremony. Prayer

Funerals and Memorials

I offer a sensitive and compassionate ministerial service to bereaved families, partners and loved ones of the recently departed. Funeral services and memorials are crafted to reflect the beliefs and personality of the person who has passed away. All funerals and memorials are bespoke, created specifically for the individual.

Funerals usually contain spiritual and religious elements such as prayers, readings and music from the faith tradition or belief system of the deceased. Sometimes, there is a spiritual belief that is not clearly defined, or elements of more than one tradition. I also work with those who do not have any religious and spiritual beliefs, creating a fitting tribute and celebration of life.

I work with bereaved families, partners and friends to define an appropriate service to honour your loved one, to send blessings and light to the soul and to invoke peace, comfort and healing for all who have attended the service. I write eulogies when required, or you may prefer to write our own. I can create personal prayers and can recommend prayers, poems and music if required.

I am available to write funeral ceremonies for those still living, for anyone who wishes to plan ahead or is near to the time of crossing over. Contact me for by email or telephone for more details.

In addition to client-led bespoke funerals, I specialise in Earth Based Spirituality, Wiccan and Pagan funerals. These may involve invocation of the four elements of earth, air, fire and water plus the fifth element, spirit, followed with invocations.

"At such a hard time in my life, Rebecca was so warm and sincere, and helped me so much, not only to arrange the funeral, but helping me with my grief. Her support was invaluable."

Zoe Clarke, Brighton, UK.

Dear Rebecca,

I'm so grateful that you were able to take the service for my dear Mum. It was a beautiful tribute that you prepared and delivered . Thank you from all of our family. I will always remember your warm smile and calm presence on the day. And what a beautiful gown! My only regret is that Mum didn't get to meet you as I'm sure you would have had lots to talk about!

My heartfelt thanks to you,


Funeral Readings and Prayers

"Maybe death
isn't darkness, after all,
but so much light
wrapping itself around us”

Mary Oliver, Owls and Other Fantasies: Poems and Essays

Celtic Peace Prayer

Deep Peace of the Blazing Sun to You
Deep Peace of the Radiant Moon to You
Deep Peace of the Shining Stars to You
Deep Peace of the Flowing Wind to You
Deep Peace of the Running Wave to You
Deep Peace of the Quiet Earth to You

All things pass
A sunrise does not last all morning
All things pass
A cloudburst does not last all day
All things pass
Nor a sunset all night
All things pass
What always changes?
These change
And if these do not last
Do man's visions last?
Do mans Illusions?
Take things as they come
All things pass.


Empty yourself of everything.
Let the mind rest at peace.
The ten thousand things rise and fall while the Self watches their return.
They grow and flourish and then return to the source.
Returning to the source is stillness, which is the way of nature.
The way of nature is unchanging.
Knowing constancy is insight.
Not knowing constancy leads to disaster.
Knowing constancy, the mind is open.
With an open mind, you will be openhearted.
Being openhearted, you will act royally.
Being royal, you will attain the divine.
Being divine, you will be at one with the Tao.
Being at one with the Tao is eternal.
And though the body dies, the Tao will never pass away.

Tao Te Ching, Chapter 16.

The Lord's Prayer

Our Father, who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name.
Thy Kingdom come,
thy will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
For thine is the kingdom,
the power and the glory,
for ever and ever.

Psalm 23

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the Lord for ever.

Chandogya Upanishad, Part 8

There is a bridge between time and Eternity; and this bridge is Atman, the Spirit of man. Neither day nor night cross that bridge, nor old age, nor death nor sorrow.
Evil or sin cannot cross that bridge, because the world of the Spirit is pure. This is why when this bridge has been crossed, the eyes of the blind can see, the wounds of the wounded are healed, and the sick man becomes whole from his sickness. To one who goes over that bridge, the night becomes like unto day; because in the worlds of the Spirit there is a Light which is everlasting. The Supreme Teaching (Death) When the body falls into weakness on account of old age or disease, even as a mango-fruit, or the fruit of the holy fig-tree, is loosened from its stem, so the Spirit of man is loosened from the human body and returns by the same way to Life, wherefrom he came. And even as a worker in gold, taking an old ornament, molds it into a form newer and fairer, even so the Soul, leaving the body and unwisdom behind, goes into a form newer and fairer: a form like that of the ancestors in heaven, or of the celestial beings, or of the gods of light, or of the Lord of Creation, or ! of Brahma the Creator supreme, or a form other beings.

The Gayatri Mantra

O God, The Giver of Life,
Remover of pains and sorrows,
Bestower of happiness, and
Creator of the Universe;
Thou art luminous, pure and adorable;
We meditate on Thee.
May Thou inspire and guide
Our intellect in the right direction.

Translation, from Rigveda 3:62:10, 4000 B.C.E.

Brhadaranyaka Upanishad — I.iii.28

Lead us from untruth to truth.
From darkness to light.
From death to immortality
May Peace Be Everwhere

asato ma sat gamaya
tamaso ma jyotir gamaya
mrtyorma amritam gamaya
om shanti shanti shanti

When a man dies, what does not leave him? The voice of a dead man goes into fire, his breath into wind, his eyes into the sun, his mind into the moon, his hearing into the quarters of heaven, his body into the land cheerfully. Earth, his spirit into space.

Veda Upanishad

Dear Rebecca,

Many, many thanks from me , mum and Mark for such a beautiful service yesterday. We couldn't have wished for any better. Dad would have loved it.

Jade Durrent Grey

A Wiccan Funeral Prayer
Time has passed, the Wheel has turned.
It is time for you [person's name] to move on.
You will walk hand in hand with the Lord and Lady
and with your ancestors who came before you.

Great Mother, welcome [name of person]
back into your womb.

And Great Father welcome [him/her] back
into your divine instruction.

Let [him/her] come to you and
know that [s/he] has been blessed
by your gracious gift of Life.

Let [him/her] come into your Divine Love,
and let [him/her] know
that [s/he] has left behind a life of legacy,
that [s/he] shall be remembered and loved.

As [s/he] enters your world,
wrap [him/her] in your loving arms,
and welcome [him/her] back home.

Let [him/her] speak to the Ancient Ones
to learn the greater mysteries
that lie beyond the veil.

Give [him/her] the strength to take these final steps,
and allow [him/her] to do so with peace and dignity.

Those of us left behind
shall indeed mourn [his/her] death,
but we shall also know
that [his/her] Soul and Spirit
is coming back
to Holy Mother and Holy Father,
and that [s/he] shall be made whole again.

We shall cry, but we shall also laugh,
for we shall celebrate the Life
that had been given to [person's name.]

And let [him/her] also know
that as we now merry part,
that we shall also merry meet again.

And we now, with these candles {light candles}
respect the flame of [person's name]'s life,
and though these candle flames shall die out,
we know that [person's name] shall live on,
and [his/her] flame shall never cease to burn,
and we also know that [s/he] shall be reborn anew.

Take [him/her] by the hand and
guide [him/her] back into your heart,
for this is what is right and just.

Let [him/her] walk unerringly
down the path that leads to your Love.

This is our will and so mote it be.
Amen and Amen.

- Crimson Peaceful Wolf -

In Beauty may I walk

In beauty may I walk all day long, may I walk
Through the returning seasons may I walk
With dew about my feet, may I walk
With beauty before me may I walk
With beauty behind me may I walk
With beauty above me may I walk
With beauty all around me may I walk
In old age, wandering on a trail of beauty may I walk,
It is finished in beauty
It is finished in beauty.

Anonymous, First Nation American






Those Who Live In Our Hearts Will Be With Us Always

We cannot control the movement of time,
nor can we control our own destiny
or the destinies of those we love.
But we can take comfort in knowing
that those who have lived in our hearts
are never really gone.
For as long as we keep them with us,
in our hearts and our thoughts,
they will be with us always.
For love, which is timeless,
never ceases to exist.

author unknown

Woodland Burial

Don't lay me in some gloomy churchyard shaded by a wall
Where the dust of ancient bones has spread a dryness over all,
Lay me in some leafy loam where, sheltered from the cold
Little seeds investigate and tender leaves unfold.
There kindly and affectionately, plant a native tree
To grow resplendent before God and hold some part of me.
The roots will not disturb me as they wend their peaceful way
To build the fine and bountiful, from closure and decay.
To seek their small requirements so that when their work is done
I’ll be tall and standing strongly in the beauty of the sun.

Pam Ayres

If Death is Kind

Perhaps if death is kind, and there can be returning,
We will come back to earth some fragrant night,
And take these lanes to find the sea, and bending
Breathe the same honeysuckle, low and white.
We will come down at night to these resounding beaches
And the long gentle thunder of the sea,
Here for a single hour in the wide starlight
We shall be happy, for the dead are free.

~Sara Teasdale


To laugh often and much,
to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children,
to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends,
to appreciate beauty,
to find the best in others,
to leave the world a bit better,
whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
That is to have succeeded

(author unknown)

We all take different paths in life,
but no matter where we go,
we take a little of each other everywhere.

-- Tim McGraw

From joy we came,
With joy we live
And into sacred joy
We will melt again

Paramahansa Yogananda

“Death is a release from the impressions of the senses, and from desires that make us their puppets, and from the vagaries of the mind, and from the hard service of the flesh.

Death, like birth, is a secret of Nature.

Despise not death, but welcome it, for nature wills it like all else.

Dig within. Within is the wellspring of Good; and it is always ready to bubble up, if you just dig.

Do every act of your life as if it were your last.

He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe.

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.

It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.”

Marcus Aurelius

On Death -

You would know the secret of death.
But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?
The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day
cannot unveil the mystery of light.
If you would indeed behold the spirit of death,
open your heart wide unto the body of life.
For life and death are one,
even as the river and the sea are one.

In the depth of your hopes and desires
lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;
And like the seeds dreaming beneath the snow
your heart dreams of spring.
Trust the dreams,
for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.
Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd
when he stands before the king whose hand
is to be laid upon him in honour.
Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling,
that he shall wear the mark of the king?
Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind
and to melt into the sun?
And what is it to cease breathing,
but to free the breath from its restless tides,
that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence
shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top,
then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs,
then shall you truly dance.

Kahlil Gibran

Peace, my heart, let the time for the parting be sweet. Let it not be a death but completeness. Let love melt into memory and pain into songs. Let the flight through the sky end in the folding of the wings over the nest. Let the last touch of your hands be gentle like the flower of the night. Stand still, O Beautiful End, for a moment, and say your last words in silence. I bow to you and hold up my lamp to light you on your way.

Rabindranath Tagore.

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